tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21589440.post4394189723591096574..comments2023-10-10T07:20:04.614-04:00Comments on Step by Step: Making Painful DecisionsUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21589440.post-10761427037165032352007-02-02T09:16:00.000-05:002007-02-02T09:16:00.000-05:00Great advise from Ginger and Andrew. Both easier ...Great advise from Ginger and Andrew. Both easier said than done however. In my experience you can be very polite and state your position and it could be twisted and turned into a nightmare anyway. If you take financial assistance and you are paying it back then you are fullfilling your only obligation to them. Boundaries have to be established and maintained no matter how difficult or how ugly it may get. As long as one keeps polite and respectful when maintaining boundaries there should be no guilt.<br /> God says give with a joyful heart and expect nothing in return! The blessings of giving to others are rewarded by Him! and Marriage is a separation from family and becoming one with the spouse. Both husband and wife have to be focused on "their life together". Pleasing each other.....not the rest of the extended family! Good Luck, be strong and be bold!Kimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09902198860357356321noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21589440.post-88959059089193080702007-02-02T00:57:00.000-05:002007-02-02T00:57:00.000-05:00The extended family are on a 'need to know' basis....The extended family are on a 'need to know' basis.. it's time for the writer and her spouse to focus on their family unit - and most importantly, their marriage.<br /><br />Everybody else needs to know nothing. Just my opinion. <br /><br />The writer is welcomed to visit the forum. :)lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00661099305436068969noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21589440.post-59408104374728850992007-02-01T22:04:00.000-05:002007-02-01T22:04:00.000-05:00I've heard some people suggest placing a thousand ...I've heard some people suggest placing a thousand miles and at least one major river between you and your extended family, at least until you have a chance to establish yourselves. This is the Mongolia approach, though, so...<br /><br />Is the stress coming from his family or yours? If it's his, then you're right -- HE should step up and deal with it, AND when it comes to conflicts between your newly-formed family and his extended family, his loyalties should now lie with you.<br /><br />I don't know if that helps, but I wish you the best of luck.<br /><br />Andrew (<a href="http://lovehonoranddismay.blogspot.com/">To Love, Honor, and Dismay</a>)Andrew McAllisterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07210761023973607515noreply@blogger.com