Tuesday, November 13, 2007

Review: Stepping-Stones For Stepmoms


First off I'm going to state that I am not a stepmom, but I was a step-daughter and think if I had just a little insight to what this book revealed back then life would've been much easier. This is one of those books that will walk you through the steps that a stepmom must go through in order to be part of "The" family. While reading this book, do keep in mind that it is religious so if religion isn't your cup of tea it may not be for you. However if you can, it may really help you understand the life of a stepmom and what they go through.

This will be a bit different for a review, I'm going to share with you certain quotes and then life through the eyes of a step-daughter and a mom. Yes, mom because I think that this book would even help moms and not just stepmoms. (Sorry Karen but I think it would benefit everyone out there that has children)

For instance- Anger issues. What's the first thing that happens when your child lies to you or your spouse? How do you feel? Karen will walk you through how it feels as a stepmom, the hurt, resentment, anger, etc and how to overcome that. No you don't just strike out like so many do. Find out why it is happening.

For each chapter in "Stepping-Stones" there are several questions to answer and help you through the process. Each chapter begins with a verse from the bible, the story of the challenge, encouragement to get through it, a prayer and the questions.

My favorite part in the book was on page 131 where she talks about her life on a day of coping. "Peace in Coping" her family is at a soccer game and at the very end, their son runs off with his mom for the weekend and yells "Love you both," without fear of how his mom feels. I think this is a remarkable moment, I remember that feeling of dread or the look in others eyes. It takes a remarkable family to be able to deal with this. But with the steps inside this book you just might be able to achieve that. Shouldn't every child feel fearless, whether he/she is with mom or dad?

11 comments:

Jill said...

That's a nice story from the "Peace in Coping" chapter. Kids should be able to love all the grownups in their lives, and kuddos to Karon Goodman's family for creating a situation where it is okay.

Karon said...

Thanks so much for the review and for being part of our blog tour! You know, it's been years since that day on the soccer field, but it's a memory of hope and promise that I hang on to and revisit from time to time :-) Thank you again and happy Thanksgiving!

Many blessings,
Karon

Jill Davis Doughtie said...

Happy Thanksgiving!

Homemom3 said...

I agree, but many times children are forced to choose between family members. Hopefully this book can help with that. It would definitely make a great stocking stuffer. Don't ya think?

flygirl said...

It's nice that kids feel this freedom. Mine do too. I am a Bio-mom, with daughters who have a step mom and I have to admit, sometimes the hurt still rises right to the surface. But will I allow myself to wallow (selfish), or behave in a way that is most beneficial to my girls?

Yolanda Elvira said...

thank you! i'll definitely pick this up.

Jane Massengill said...

Oh what a wonderful moment it is to hear my stepchild say he loves me. There are many issues that blended families face. Let us take every opportunity to learn. I invite you to a Live 60-minute call-in Teleseminar on Thursday, July 31st, 6PM Pacific / 9PM Eastern. Please visit Blended-Families.com to be able to participate in the call for free.

Lina said...

Seems to be a great book... I am not a step-mom and has never had a step-mom, but some situations in being just a mom leave me puzzled. I just don't feel to be strong enough, kind enough and wise enough to solve them, and to be sure they get solved right... thanks for your review...

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Josh Hunt said...

We take a "not so blended" approach to blended families. I pretty much parent my kids; my wife parents hers.

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