Letters from Children of Divorce

Blended Kids - Letters from Children of Divorce. Though the title says "children of divorce" it can be letters from anyone who has had their life impacted by divorce. Whether it's your parents, yourself, whomever.

Over the last several years I've learned there is no way for all the courts to truly know what's really best for the children - because NO two families are alike. Try as they might, to make the best decisions, watching the evening news is a testament to the fact that they're not always right.

As a child of divorce myself, I feel as though I have somewhat a clearer understanding of what the needs of children of divorce are versus what someone who has never been divorced might believe.

Thus the idea for people from all over the world to share their own thoughts and letters on what's best for them. What hurts them most? What they wish their parents would do? What they should have done? How should parents handle divorce from a child's perspective.

At the same time, being a divorced woman myself, I would like to invite parents who are divorced to share their letters as well. God knows there are many secrets I've had to keep from my kids that I hope one day they'll forgive me for. This is also a place for people like me to share those secrets - so that perhaps other parents in similar situations will find support, encouragement and inspiration.

With statistics indicating that most families are now blended or divorced - I truly believe the best way to strengthen the latest trend in family dynamics is through the personal experiences and letters from those who have been there and are living it.

If you are divorced, know someone who is - or know a child of divorce, please share this site and option with them. When they get angry, hurt or depressed - I'd like for this to become one new avenue in which they can reach out to take therapeutic measures to get beyond that pain and at the very least connect with others like themselves.

Thanks so much for your help spreading this blog around - the kids are really very excited about this. I hope they can read the letters from other kids who are in similar situations and realize they're aren't quite as different as they'd thought.

This is entirely the kids project - I just do a bit of the web work stuff and will filter some of the letters for "content" purposes of course. They are in charge of all the posting and development.

Adult Children of Divorce

I'm looking for Adult Children of Divorce who would be willing to answer a few questions for me as part of an article that I'm putting together.

This article won't be featured in any major magazine, but what it will do is to help me find some happy medium between what I personally know, feel and believe as an adult child of divorce versus what our court systems THINK children today 'need' from their divorcing parents.

Personally, I don't think they have a very good handle on the whole divorce thing because they still have the same old mindset that all children belong with their mother - which we all know couldn't be further from the truth.

I'm finding myself very torn between what the courts expect from me now as a stepmother versus what I know as a child of divorce.

I think children of divorce know best, but who am I?

Perhaps if I had more people who come from similar backgrounds helping in this soul searching experience, I could find a happy place between the two.

If you're interested in helping with this proposition, please leave a comment here on how I can contact you - or I'll find a way to be in touch.