It's always been my belief that there should be a law that states if the non-custodial parent doesn't pay child support then they forfeit the privilege of seeing their children.
Seeing your children and being a part of their lives should be considered an honor and parents who lack the responsibility of helping provide the best possible life for those children should be a full crime punishable by not allowing them in their lives.
It was always easy with my ex - because I never had to worry about him taking me to court to fight me on my decision. Of course he never wanted to see the kids anyway -- it interrupted his party time.
There are some people, much like my husbands ex who seem to feel they are above the law. Like the rules ONLY apply to everyone but them.
In the long run it's only hurting the children -- and in a house where the child support DOES belong to the children, is placed in accounts where it's ONLY spent on the children, it makes it rather difficult for the non paying parent to explain.
Some people make me ill! Just giving birth and seeing the kids two days a friggin month are NOT enough.
Showing posts with label non custodial parent. Show all posts
Showing posts with label non custodial parent. Show all posts
Monday, May 07, 2007
Friday, January 26, 2007
Open Letter to All Custodial Parents
Dear Parent ~
Do you not realize how much your actions against the non-custodial parent are hurting your children?
Do you not realize that by using your children as a source to get your digs in, you are gradually pushing them away - and just like any fine straw, once it's broken, it's not likely it can ever be mended.
If you don't want your child to participate in something, do certain sports, take piano lessons, join under water basket weaving or whatever, tell them. Don't place the non-custodial parent in the position of having to tell that child no and hurt their feelings.
Do not tell your children their other parent isn't paying support. That only makes you look criminal when they are shown the proof that their 'other parent' is providing for them well within the guidelines of the law and then some.
In many cases, one parent has already taken enough away from the other parent by placing them in the position where they can only see their children 4 days out of the month. That's a huge sacrifice, especially for a parent who truly cares.
If you still love that parent, too bad. You should have thought about that before you divorced.
Adults should take responsibility for their own actions. Let the children be children and let them enjoy their four days per month with their other parent without having to worry about being a messenger to the other parent.
You've made your bed - now let them be kids.
Do you not realize how much your actions against the non-custodial parent are hurting your children?
Do you not realize that by using your children as a source to get your digs in, you are gradually pushing them away - and just like any fine straw, once it's broken, it's not likely it can ever be mended.
If you don't want your child to participate in something, do certain sports, take piano lessons, join under water basket weaving or whatever, tell them. Don't place the non-custodial parent in the position of having to tell that child no and hurt their feelings.
Do not tell your children their other parent isn't paying support. That only makes you look criminal when they are shown the proof that their 'other parent' is providing for them well within the guidelines of the law and then some.
In many cases, one parent has already taken enough away from the other parent by placing them in the position where they can only see their children 4 days out of the month. That's a huge sacrifice, especially for a parent who truly cares.
If you still love that parent, too bad. You should have thought about that before you divorced.
Adults should take responsibility for their own actions. Let the children be children and let them enjoy their four days per month with their other parent without having to worry about being a messenger to the other parent.
You've made your bed - now let them be kids.
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